Fertility counselling is a specialist area of counselling that supports people trying to conceive, naturally or with assistance, experiencing primary or secondary infertility and people who have experienced pregnancy loss.
As a member of BICA - the British Infertility Counselling Association - I am a firm advocate of counselling to support you on your journey.
Undergoing fertility treatment can be a stressful and isolating experience. It can feel like being on an emotional rollercoaster, getting support from people who can relate to what you’re going through is very important.
Infertility is known to be one of the most distressing experiences for anyone who expected to plan a family. It is often a shock, threatening hopes and dreams of how they imagined the future. If this is happening to you, you may be surprised at how hard it is to cope with your emotions and with being surrounded by other people’s babies and families. Relatives, friends and colleagues may not be very understanding or realise how much grief you are feeling. Not everyone will appreciate that a miscarriage is a bereavement or that undergoing fertility treatments is stressful, offering hope and anxiety in equal measure.
You may have discovered that you need to think of alternative ways to create your family – through donation of sperm, eggs or embryos. Surrogacy or adoption may have been suggested. The loss of having a child that is genetically related to you or your partner or not being able to give birth to your child can be an enormous loss. In recognition of how complex these situations can be for people emotionally and socially, most clinics will encourage you to see their counsellor in order to explore the meaning of this option for you and to understand the implications for the future.